A lasting marriage does not always signal a happy marriage. Plenty of miserable couples have stayed together for children, religion or other practical reasons. But for many couples, it’s just not enough to stay together. They want a relationship that …

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With the advantage of hindsight, I can see that the breakup of my marriage was a transformative experience for me. The upheaval, coming like a bolt from the blue and feeling like hell, jolted me back to life and forced …

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One of the most common questions newly divorcing people have for me is, "how long will it take before I'm over this divorce ordeal?" My answer is always the same: How long it takes to "recover" from a divorce depends …

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I was at a party, the kind where bosoms, booze and mouths overflowed. There wasn't much happening with my bosom, but my then-husband's mouth was going for it. "You know," he said to my dearest friend, "I like being married …

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I have clients going through the divorce process who fight furiously over possessions that, in the end, aren't really beneficial to them at all. One prime example was a woman in her mid-30s who was hell-bent on keeping the house. …

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I often wonder why, when two people get divorced, yet parented together while they were married, they suddenly can't parent together anymore. Is the anger so great that one parent can't see past it or around it? Is the resentment …

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You can say one thing about celebrity train wreck marriages: Those famous can afford to make big fat divorce settlements and move on. That's not so true for most everyday people In fact, tough economic times are making it difficult …

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The real taboo in American relationships is not sex. It's money. A national survey or more than 200 people reveals about 80 percent of spouses acknowledge making secret purchases. To compound this dirty little secret, nearly one-fifth (18.5 percent) of …

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The following is Part III of an excerpt from "Reconcilable Differences: Marriages End, Families Don't" Parts One and Two can be found here. When ex-spouses decide to share a house, it takes a few months to establish new routines. Joe …

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I never expected my parents to split up. I know most children of divorce say that, but mine stuck it out all the way until I was in college. Sure, my dad slept in the guest room sometimes, but that's …

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