Split Wide Open

When divorce is imminent how do you do it cordially?  An article with some great tips on how to do just this can be found here.

Some of the tips:

"It always helps to finish things off amongst yourselves. If you and your spouse can’t agree on certain things, it is the judge who will make that decision for you. Instead of a third person deciding it for you, do it on your own. If it’s too difficult, involve a divorce mediator. He is trained to create a cordial situation. "

"Try to look for a common goal. It may be regarding your children’s future, or regarding the divorce process or anything else. "

"Try to follow that goal and it will help you achieve some kind of harmony."

"It would help if you try to see things from your spouse’s perspective. It never helps if you stick to your own view. Try to be in his or her shoes and think objectively. It will sort out the cobwebs in your mind."

"Go for trained mediation. Professional assistance always helps in pursuing a ‘friendly divorce’. Apart from the mediator, if your attorney is trying to create tension in the proceedings, opt for some other attorney."