Not sure you want a divorce but something's got to give?

Have you and your spouse been fighting?  Have certain issues been a bone of contention during your marriage?  Not sure you want a divorce but something's got to give?  Tried counseling but it didn't work?  Why not try marital mediation to resolve your differences?  In martial mediation you and your spouse can devise your own postnuptial agreement and stop fighting.

A great article on marital mediation and postnuptial agreements can be found here.  The article notes: 

"It's the same concept as a prenuptial agreement," says Los Angeles attorney Scott Weston, co-author of "I Do, You Do ... But Just Sign Here: A Quick and Easy Guide to Cohabitation, Prenuptial and Postnuptial Agreements."

"Instead of being done before a marriage, it's done during a marriage," he says.

Postnups, while much less common than prenuptial agreements, are gaining in popularity. Nearly 50 percent of attorneys polled by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers reported an increase in the number of postnups from 2002 to 2007.

The agreements usually are used to settle financial issues, says Weston, whose high-profile clients have included Robert Iger, chief executive of the Walt Disney Company, as well as author Terry McMillan and boxer Oscar de la Hoya.

Postnups might be used to determine who owns assets, set a budget for household expenses or remove a business from the table in the event of a divorce. Couples also have used them to decide such things as how often the mother-in-law gets to visit or how many boys-only weekends the husband gets to take.

A postnuptial or mediated agreement can help save a couple's relationship -- if that's their goal.