The Secret Cause of Divorce

As usual, the couple sitting in my office hated each other. They were obnoxious, rude and at times downright obscene. They were getting a divorce.

One year earlier, the husband came home from work early and went online. The web was open. His wife's Facebook page was visible. He saw it. A note to his wife opened from yesterday that read, "Can you get away tomorrow? I need to see you." Her response: "Yes! But I'll only have a couple hours, so how about 1pm at your place?

"It was 4pm. His wife wasn't home. Minutes later she arrived for what would go down in history as their final battle royale.

This couple came to me for divorce mediation. They chose not to hire a lawyer because it would be too expensive. But the mediation route, although economical, was tough because their anger and vengeance was intense. He blamed cheating for the failure of their marriage. She said she cheated because she felt as though they "weren't in a real marriage anymore."

via Laurie Puhn: The Secret Cause of Divorce.