Secrets of a Successful Divorce Mediation 

A mediator's job, first and foremost, it to be a master listener. Certainly, a mediator must bring to the table more than just listening skills, but the listening is key because a case won't resolve unless both people feel heard and respected.

Facilitating a divorce mediation requires:

• Listening with an open heart and mind

• Letting each person speak freely and uninterrupted (i.e., keeping my mouth shut at the right times)

• Staying emotionally present as the couple face the pain and disappointments that led them there

• Allowing them to experience the fear and uncertainty of the future without trying to fix or minimize it

• Asking questions and clarifying what they've said, with care and compassion

• Honoring what each person believes is a fair settlement

via Secrets of a Successful Divorce Mediation | Alison Patton.